If there is a person that you know who is an alcoholic and needs help, Al-Anon is one of the most effective groups of helping the achieve that. These gatherings provided much-needed support and healing.
Al- Anon is a support organization for the friends and family members of problem drinkers, founded in 1951. Lois Wilson, well-known simply as Lois W, whose husband launched Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), laid the foundation of Al-Anon organization 16 years after AA was established. Dealing with the difficulties of providing support to a recovering alcoholic during her life, she decided to create an organization for people similar to her. Financial contributions are done by the members of the group itself which keep it running. Meetings are available to assist family members and friends of alcoholics adjust and better serve their loved ones, even if their loved ones have not recovered.
Providing support to family members by making them understand that they are not alone in this struggle is the primary focus of Al-Anon.
Alcoholism Being A Family Illness
Al-Anon sees alcoholism as a family illness, because it negatively affects both the drinkers and people around them. For an alcoholic to recover, they need the support of friends and family.
Many family members are known to blame themselves for the drinking problem of their loved one, and in many cases do not understand why the recovery of their loved one is a priority. Meetings deal with these issues and make members understand that alcoholism is a family illness.
Alateen- Al-Anon Meetings Intended For Teenagers
Al-Anon is also home for a group which is identified as Alateen and is catering to youngsters that are affected by alcoholism within their family.
The meetings held by Alateen help youngsters to meet with individuals within their age group in order to make their experiences more beneficial and interrelated.
Reasons To Partake In An Al-Anon Group
Al-Anon members benefit by being introduced to other people and families who have suffered from alcoholism. All members have worked through some issues though the details may differ. Being with people who understand your struggles and whom you can talk to is a big plus. These meetings are widespread all over the country. Give us a call on 0800 772 3971 to assist you find one close by you.
Expectations For A Meeting
The meetings held by Al-Anon are open to any individual who could be affected by the alcoholism of another individual. If you are worried about somebody's heavy drinking or if the drunkard's lifestyle somehow affects your life , Al-Anon will help you.
The outcomes of these meetings is what scares some people from coming. The following are some of the key things to know when you are coming for the meetings:
Al-Anon is a group that is unidentified
Whether personally or through a family member, everyone in each meeting has been impacted by alcoholism
No One is made to speak about their problem or discuss it, just encouraged to
Meetings Offered Can Vary
Some could be more productive for you than the others.
Al-Anon is not an organization which is based on any religion
The meetings are concentrating on the 12-step program which has been designed by Al-Anon
The Al-Anon meetings work on the "take what you like and leave the rest" philosophy In this way, instead of telling attendees what they should do, meetings target on exchanging experiences and difficulties.
Most meetings begin with a reading of Al Anon 12 Step program. Adapted, from the 12 Step program of Alcoholics Anonymous, these steps are nearly straight sword. Similarly to AA, Al-Anon members rely on a facilitator who guides them through the steps and who is always ready to support when the going gets tough. These steps are:
We admit that we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become unmanageable.
The members learn how to accept alcohol addiction as an illness, which they cannot control if somebody else suffers from it.
Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
Trying to change a person that has been affected by alcoholism can be a huge task and lead to breakdown.
When they understand they cannot do anything to change their loved one, people are now able to accept they can relax and let go for their peace of mind.
Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
Learning to let go is a primary step in the program and acceptance.
Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
Identifying that your life is being affected by alcoholism is one way of getting the best help.
They then come up with how they have been affected by the condition and what they might have done to hurt others or themselves.
Have admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the true cause of our wrong doings.
Writing each problem enables them to examine them one by one.
Got fully ready to have God eliminate all the flaws of character.
This is an important step because it comes after accepting in full that the recovery process is supported by a greater power.
Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
Members are assisted by this part of the 12 Steps to understand how they may have been dominating or judgmental toward an addict and how that is counterproductive.
Drew up a list of all people we had harmed, and became willing to right a wrong for them all.
Very often, righting a wrong starts with yourself.
Many people blame themselves for their addiction of their loved one.
They must agree to pardon themselves and make amends.
Made direct amends to such people wherever possible unless to do so would injure them or others.
As soon as you are ready to make amends, the next step is actually to do it.
Went on making personal inventory and each time we were wrong, we admitted it at once.
Going through the 12 Steps is a process that takes time.
Though a member made a list of things they did wrong, sometimes you may find yourself repeating some things.
Step 10 identifies this is an ongoing process.
Through prayer and meditation endeavoured to improve our conscious contact with God as we perceived Him, praying only for learning His will for us and the strength to do it.
Self acceptance is the major key to all the stages of recovery.
Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
This stage appreciates the fact that the process is long and doesnt end after a while.
After this, group members are encouraged to support others by sharing what they have already learned.
What Is Higher Power
Members do have an acceptance of a higher power, even though Al-Anon is not a religious program. Nevertheless, the term " higher power" is open to imply as one's own individual beliefs. Al-Anon is open to members of all religions and beliefs and accepts them with a commitment that no one will be forced to alter his or her belief.